tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post3773360706479194003..comments2023-10-07T00:40:12.699-07:00Comments on Secrets of Baby Behavior: When Stranger Anxiety Isn't Only For StrangersDr. Jane Heinighttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04068549990790707174noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-56196191731121497822015-04-29T08:20:03.515-07:002015-04-29T08:20:03.515-07:00My 8 month old boy has been doing this for months ...My 8 month old boy has been doing this for months and months. Only with my partner's parents and sisters, every single time they look at him or speak to him, just saying hi can set him off hysterically. It can't be very nice for them. They dont see him very often, maybe once every 2 weeks and they can be pretty loud which is what we thought at first (that he just needs to get used to it) but it's getting a bit much. My partner works so its mainly just me and my son all the time, we go to baby groups every few days and hes fine. I dont get much of a break and it would be nice for them to take him more, I dont want him staying over until this is better, I've seen how he gets and its not nice. My mother is the only one who takes him over night but because she works this is very rare, maybe once every 3/4 months. I do breastfeed so I expect some clingyness. My partner lately has said when he does this we should ignore him..because usually I take him, hug him, say its okay etc, lately I dont take him away because I know that will make it worse in the long run, expecting me to take him etc. I do not want to ignore him my HV said he'll get used to it, but I dont want him to get used to crying everytime he sees them! Any advice please?? xxRachelnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-52879080338020366622014-12-05T12:16:58.255-08:002014-12-05T12:16:58.255-08:00My baby started at 9 weeks - crying when others he...My baby started at 9 weeks - crying when others held her (hysteria!) until I took her back, whereupon she's all smiles. She's a bit more comfortable now, but I have to be close by, within eye and ear shot, and she keeps looking to check.She's not great with large groups of people that keep getting in her face either. I know it will take time and she's just a cautious little person, but sometimes trying to explain that to other people who think she needs to "get over it" is very hard. A 24 week old doesn't just "get over it"....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-23802845375173684832014-12-01T15:04:23.004-08:002014-12-01T15:04:23.004-08:00my 18 mo old loses it with new people paying atten...my 18 mo old loses it with new people paying attention to her AND people she knows. it IS exhausting. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-42237420779413117262014-09-01T18:55:46.172-07:002014-09-01T18:55:46.172-07:00Try to see her as what she is right now...just a b...Try to see her as what she is right now...just a baby. Everything is a brand new never before seen experience. And who cares about what an adult thinks,feels over a baby? The mature ones should display adult traits and let the babies grow. Like they need to grow.<br />And I do speak from my own daughter's speration anxiety and her huge family from my husband's side. Even when she hyperventilated they wouldnt give up trying not only to take her from my sight as she screamed for me but keep me from taking her back. I took her back,because she is my priority not their opinion of me or her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-23673223735017882112014-07-15T23:55:21.191-07:002014-07-15T23:55:21.191-07:00To the one who said about the 1 yr old still not g...To the one who said about the 1 yr old still not going tl anyone dont worry hun my daughter did it till she was 2 yrs.. shes only JUST starting to love my.mil its grandma everything now but she used to scream and scream until daddy would take her.. I couldn't even get her to stop it was heartbreaking for my mil so she stopped coming around until we explained it to her that she had to come over heaps more so she got used to her. They are gorgeous together now she cries when grandma leavesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-4633859619610297222014-02-25T05:37:35.782-08:002014-02-25T05:37:35.782-08:00Thank goodness I'm not alone. My bubba girl wh...Thank goodness I'm not alone. My bubba girl who's 3 1/2 months is exactly the same I was getting so worried she was broken lol. I hate taking her anywhere for the reason it takes hours for her to calm down and it only takes a look to set her off again. It's exhaustingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-81320177914351135622013-04-24T20:22:00.593-07:002013-04-24T20:22:00.593-07:00I knew of this but my daughter is almost 6 months ...I knew of this but my daughter is almost 6 months old and she was terrified because he had completely shaved his face and had his hair down for once and i just got done with her bath when he walked out from the bathroom and tried to make her smile and she stuck out that bottom lip and screamed for about 20 minutes until she realized who he was when he put his hair in a ponytail and sang to her. He felt so helpless, i did too but she finally calmed down. i will never be embarressed of it. we will take it slow with other people from now on and just explain to them that they cannot take it personally. I love her so much and it just means that we are her safe haven. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-64690347717467014312013-04-03T15:51:07.427-07:002013-04-03T15:51:07.427-07:00Why would it be embarrassing if your baby cries wh...Why would it be embarrassing if your baby cries when carried by strangers? Why would anyone be embarrassed of their baby doing what's natural to him/her??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-22250281636830556862013-02-26T19:18:21.191-08:002013-02-26T19:18:21.191-08:00Don't worry about your baby's negativ appr...Don't worry about your baby's negativ approach toward your in-laws. It is a positive sign toward your baby's mental development and on your in-laws part, they shouldn't take her/his behavior personally, with the time they will find each other to love, like, and be happy together. We can't expect too much from a three month old baby.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-9471174916506445342013-01-06T16:20:45.846-08:002013-01-06T16:20:45.846-08:00My baby girl is 4 months old & recently starte...My baby girl is 4 months old & recently started doing this to my husbands parents & sister it had been a little over a week since she saw them & the minute they started talking to she curled that bottom lip & cried like she was broken hearted, she did sane thing with my grandmother & some close friends but she doesnt do it with my parents (which we see them on weekends & for days at a time so don't know if this makes a difference) all I know is u feel so bad for his in laws when she does this, Dora anyone know how long this stage can last? & maybe some ways to help it??? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-91239903387164887482012-09-29T12:53:09.884-07:002012-09-29T12:53:09.884-07:00My son has been doing that, too. He would curl his...My son has been doing that, too. He would curl his lips and then starts crying, then bawling, then shrieking. It's a bit embarrassing but it's a part of his development. lol. I'm hoping to get him a bit more used to strangers when in the presence of mom or dad... Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12581479371794876419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-32613405704101902072012-09-20T00:05:09.369-07:002012-09-20T00:05:09.369-07:00my daughter is 17months and has super stranger anx...my daughter is 17months and has super stranger anxiety. when we are around more then 1 new person or even family member she goes bananas. takes her about 1-2 hours to warm up to the new enviroment. i think its all the talking and excitement that overwhelms her. i also am a stay at home mom and most of the time its just me and her alone at home, so that probably has sonething to do with it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-15543760917846185282012-06-20T18:20:54.080-07:002012-06-20T18:20:54.080-07:00My daughter started her stranger anxiety when she ...My daughter started her stranger anxiety when she was around 4 months old. I think the first time was over stimulation and too many new people but not too long afterwards, it was obvious she needed some time to warm up to people. Some family members take it personally and insist she "always cries" but she is really happy...except when they hold her. I try and just roll with it. She is 10 months now and she does enjoy people and an audience. She will even let friends and strangers hold her, sometimes. It has to be on her terms and not right away...and if she is tired, FORGET IT! My advice is just be comforting to your baby and don't force new people on her but try and take it slow, if you can. Introduce her to new people, talk about how nice the new people are and I think the baby will start to grow out of it (gradually!). My little one seems to be slowly gaining trust. I usually try and always have someone hold her for at least a little bit. (she's great with kids though...it's adults she doesn't trust right away, can you blame the babies!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-70345439562408877752012-05-02T04:32:56.108-07:002012-05-02T04:32:56.108-07:00My daughter cries and screams out loud non-stop wh...My daughter cries and screams out loud non-stop when she goes to visit her grandparents or any other relatives... and nothing really comforts her except bringing her back home. Sometimes she stops crying right after we get in the car to go home. Its so embarrassing... and it makes me nervous... I don't know what to do... she's a happy baby at home. She started this at 3-months-old... she'll be four months in a weekFaiza JZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17924481713211945651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-51581554237537248372012-04-07T20:34:49.086-07:002012-04-07T20:34:49.086-07:00Myn lil boy is 3 months abd already has it... ppl ...Myn lil boy is 3 months abd already has it... ppl say he's too young, but NO! He pokes his bottom lip out and screams!! So YES! They can have stranger anxiety at only 3 months.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-70023233047337689752012-03-02T12:52:28.493-08:002012-03-02T12:52:28.493-08:00My little sister is 1 yr old and she cries wheneve...My little sister is 1 yr old and she cries whenever she goes near my best friend or my dad. (its my stepdads and mums baby) she just stares at them from afartomahawknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-26323419309884022792012-02-28T11:13:09.221-08:002012-02-28T11:13:09.221-08:00My son is 4 Months old. He started at 3 months wit...My son is 4 Months old. He started at 3 months with stranger anxiety. I had never heard about this before. The only people that he will let near him...without poking out his bottom lip and screaming in terror...is Myself, my husband, my daughter and his Daycare provider. I feel so helpless. I wish there was some way to ease his fear. Do any of you have any suggestions? The thought that he's going to be scared of every other human until he's 2 yr old, is too much to handle. I just want him to be the sweet, happy, funny baby that he is at home...with everyone else!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-24416396863954007152012-02-25T12:31:09.273-08:002012-02-25T12:31:09.273-08:00My 4 month old baby will not go to anyone else apa...My 4 month old baby will not go to anyone else apart from me she really screams and will not stop till I have her back. I'm getting really concerned as I go back to work soon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-12491055477458260762012-02-19T13:48:49.404-08:002012-02-19T13:48:49.404-08:00My baby does not cry, she WAILS when someone "...My baby does not cry, she WAILS when someone "new" holds her. It takes hours on end to calm her down. Hope this passes soon; started when she was 3 months old.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-7293320914881675822012-02-09T00:20:22.740-08:002012-02-09T00:20:22.740-08:00my baby is 15 months old now and she's slowing...my baby is 15 months old now and she's slowing recovering from her <a href="http://yesiblogtoo.blogspot.com/2012/02/baby-meltdown.html" rel="nofollow">stranger anxiety</a>. she acquired this since she was around 7 months. i'm just lucky relatives don't take it personally and understands her.hushieLLahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08438774960116287654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-16492263393672178132011-12-19T09:01:09.211-08:002011-12-19T09:01:09.211-08:00Thanks for reposting this for the holidays... my s...Thanks for reposting this for the holidays... my son turned six months just after Thanksgiving, so not surprisingly that was our first experience with major stranger anxiety. He saw more new people and places in 3 days than in the past 3 months! With Hanukkah and Christmas both coming up this week, these are some wonderful tips. Thank you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-84033347546385875212011-10-09T08:40:35.235-07:002011-10-09T08:40:35.235-07:00To the mother of the 3 month old - we'll answe...To the mother of the 3 month old - we'll answer your questions in an upcoming post. Very soon!Jane Heinignoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-5432531696097627532011-10-09T08:37:18.606-07:002011-10-09T08:37:18.606-07:00If you are worried about your baby (and it sounds ...If you are worried about your baby (and it sounds like you are), it is important that you take your baby to see a doctor. The doctor can help you understand what might be happening. Best wishes from all of us.Jane Heinignoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-81258536786251322592011-10-07T05:38:28.942-07:002011-10-07T05:38:28.942-07:00I'm scared my baby would not. E attached to me...I'm scared my baby would not. E attached to me. I take care of her on my own but she doesn't show any sign of wanting me. She is 4 months and 1 week oldAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1532708164460230394.post-78727666801272813652011-10-05T15:47:20.983-07:002011-10-05T15:47:20.983-07:00my 3 month old has stranger anxiety. anyone other ...my 3 month old has stranger anxiety. anyone other than myself or fiance', she will cry. and it's not a regular cry it's a very hard intense cry. it worries me a lot because i'll be going back to work soon and will have to put her in daycare. i don't want her to lose her trust in me. i don't want her to feel like mommy isn't coming back or i'm not safe anymore.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com